Guilty Pleasures - Guys can have them to.

Why can't guys have guilty pleasures just like girls do?

Lets take Twilight for instance...Now I certainly don't swoon at Edward or Jacob like my wife has done for a couple years now, but why can't guys also enjoy the awkwardness that the Twilight series reminds us of - High School or better year our adolescence.

I watched a Spanish Novela today with my wife's Grandma called Heridas de Amor ( Wounds of Love). Sure it was all about cheating and backstabbing and endless make out scenes but was fun to watch.

So I ask again, why can't guys indulge in some of the so called guilty pleasures our wives do?

I for one am proud of it.

BOB

The blog renewed

It's been some time since I blogged. Oddly, I have received 2 requests of late to renew my blogging efforts. I had no idea my fan base was quite as big as it was. So for you, my two readers, I will blog. Although this time it wont just be about my travels. Sure I'll include that as well but I'll add some other things. Perhaps one day I'll build to three readers...but I won't hold my breath.

When Jenny and I first met, which was via the Internet, I had the following phrase in my profile:

"Life moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it".

I feel like I used to live my life that way; stopping whenever I felt the need and took a look around. Not letting the good moments just be moments that I won't remember. Almost 9 years of marriage and 3 kids later, I feel like I'm rushing through everything now just to get it done. "hurry up and eat kids because it's bath and bed". "Lets walk faster so we get to school early." "I can't play with you now, because I'm working".

There are a lot more things I could add but the gist of what I'm trying to say is that somewhere along the way, I made a decision to just keep moving fast and not stop and look around once in a while.

Why though? I've decided that often times, life is easier when it goes faster. Even if what we would stop for would be a lot of fun, I get this feeling that it will be more of a hassle to just stop and have fun, so we don't stop.

Jenny has called me out on it lately. She'll say things like "you never want to go out anymore" or "why can't they do that, just let them."

So I've been doing some self reflection and I do feel I've changed, but not necessarily for the better. Sure I'm a dedicated husband and father, I do pretty well in my job, we have a roof over our heads, but in the end those things aren't what matter. What good is it if we don't enjoy life along the way. One would think that after being hit with the realization that Jenny's cancer could claim her life that I'd be changed and slow down and enjoy the time with her more and with the kids. She is better now but not even that seemed to get me out of my ways.

I read my Aunt Dani's blog the other day and one of her post about reflections really helped me to think about my life and the lesson's I learned during last year.

I'm not promising I'll change overnight, but at least I'm cognizant of my actions now and will work to change them. I don't do "cold turkey" type changes so this will take me some time.

BTW, don't read this as though it's depressing. It's actually meant to be positive for me in that I'm moving in a new direction...where that leads, I just don't know yet.

BOB